I want to take a moment to recognize all the amazing women who dedicate themselves to their home and their family.
After the birth of my son, being at home and taking care of him, in addition to the household labour, I quickly realized that this was the hardest job that I had ever done. This job was 24-7; imagine going to and being immersed with your work day and night. I didn’t get off work at 5, get a coffee break, a lunch break, or even sleep for that matter. Like other experiences it can be difficult to explain to others who have not experienced it first hand, the amount of never-ending work and responsibility of home and childcare. There is always something that needs to be done or attended to and as soon as one thing gets checked off the list, another gets added.
Despite more mothers working outside the home (full or part-time) women continue to perform more of the domestic and emotional labour, whether raising their child alone or with a partner. A difficult aspect, can likewise be the lack of recognition and appreciation for this work. In a society that privileges money, status and productivity, the domestic and emotional labour of women are often not ascribed the same value as employment accompanied by a pay cheque. I realize it can feel overwhelming and frustrating and I wish there was a magic wand to wave so that all of you could feel the acknowledgment and appreciation you deserve! As a busy mom myself, these have been my go-to’s for grounding and self-care that have helped me with the realities I faced when staying at home.
- Take time for yourself after the children have gone to bed for self-care (i.e., a hot bath, watch a show on TV, etc.), even when everything may not be perfectly in its place before doing so.
- Take a time-out. Parents need them too! Spending hours working with children may produce some frustration and it can sometimes get the best of us. Taking 5 minutes to go into a quiet room, breath deeply, listen to a song, or lay your head down, can aide in your ability to regulate your emotions.
- Talk to your family and friends. Many people will relate to your struggle. Knowing that you are not alone and hearing what others are doing to get through the hard times, or difficult moments, can be incredibly helpful.
“A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform.” ~ Diane Mariechild ~
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