The Courage to Connect


As a Registered Provisional Psychologist, I have the honor of witnessing incredible courage each time I meet with a Client, whether it is their 1st time or their 10th time in therapy.

The idea of talking to a counsellor can be scary.
Here are 5 ways to work up the courage to see a counsellor:

1. Highlight What Is In Your Control
It is completely normal to feel nervous about attending therapy. Remind yourself about what is in your control:

  • You get a say in the therapist you see.
  • Ask questions.
    • Interview your therapist!
    • Inquire about their specialization, techniques, education, rates, and experience as a counsellor.
    • Learning more about your therapist may increase your confidence about meeting with them.
  • Appointment Logistics.
    • Choose how long you want the session to be and how often you want to attend therapy.
  • Remember, you are in control of what you share with your therapist.

2. Learn More About Therapy
Research or read about different types of therapy. For example, some people are drawn to more expressive therapies such as art therapy, whereas others prefer collaborative goals, while others may like homework to do between sessions. Think about what you what to change and research what therapies may help with your personal goals.

3. Learn About and Choose Your Therapist
It may be intimidating or scary to share intimate life details with a stranger. Read counsellors’ profiles online and reach out to one who you connect with. It is important that you feel safe and comfortable with who you are talking to. Serenity Now Wellness Centre offers free consultations. During these consultations, you have the chance to learn more about your future therapist and the therapeutic process. This is your chance to have questions answered without committing to booking an appointment or paying any fees.

4. Set a Deadline to Book an Appointment
It can be a challenge to put aside that long list of reasons outlining why you can’t book an appointment. Consider setting a deadline for yourself of when you can realistically book an appointment. Still nervous about booking a session? Block off some time after your appointment to do something fun with a friend or family member. Set the day up so you look forward to it!

5. Congratulate Yourself
Celebrate your accomplishments! You have already begun the courageous journey toward healing just by reading this. Give yourself the credit that you deserve.

Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying “I will try again tomorrow”

-Mary Anne Radmacher


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