In light of men’s health month, I would like to say something around celebrating those individuals in our lives who identify as men. I want to honour the process men have to go through and encourage men to reach out to support networks.
There are so many dynamics to the Male experience that I deeply respect and will never fully understand. From a physiological standpoint, men experience hormonal shifting in their endocrine systems different to women, but their bodies have glands that secrete hormones. These glands can become stressed, hormones can shift and be disrupted, and this can have a whole host of affects on the nervous system, mood, cognitive functions and many organ functions.
Men experience highs and lows, vulnerability, sadness, fear etc. The thing is though, there is generalized idea that has been around for far too long that men “shouldn’t” have these things. They need to “man up” “toughen up” “be a man” and whatever else is constantly tossed at them. This needs to change. There needs to be room for men to have feelings. They need to able to feel and express them. Parents of boys need to nurture these dynamics, create safety and de-stigmatize the pressures put on them. Anxiety and depression rates are on the rise with the masses. They can be pushed past limits and not given the space to process things that happen within, unto and around them.
Men need self care. Everyone needs self care, but we are talking specifically about men and those who identify as men. Now, more than ever, men need to look after their bodies and their minds. – Men should be able to access self-care in the ways they feel more recharged and nourished. If men enjoy going to the gym or learning and excelling in a specific field, that is an amazing resource for self-care. But men should feel safe to access other forms of self-care – like speaking about their emotions, accessing outside help for support, or having their bodies cared and tended for with neutral healing touch. This needs to be more than just allowed, it needs to be encouraged!
For this month of June and all months going forward, to all you amazing male identifiers out there: I see you! I hear you! I’m listening! I support you! If you are feeling pain in your body, distress in your mind, or just need to be supported in maybe a way you don’t even know how to. Come and see us, we are here to help.