Manage Grief…Through Music?


Over the past few months, COVID-19 has brought some interesting times to our population. Physical distancing and isolation have created some uncertainty – especially among those who are grieving.

Some people who have recently lost someone may be finding it difficult to manage their grief around COVID-19. Others, who have the tools to manage their grief, may find it difficult to find new strategies to help themselves.

One way I manage my grief is listening to music. There are a few songs that come to mind when I think about family members, relatives, or friends that I have lost over the years. Music, I find, helps me reflect on my loss and the meaning behind it.

Bono, the lead singer of U2, often reflected on various forms of grief when writing songs. One such song I highly recommend is from the U2 album “How To Dismantle An Atomic Bomb” (2004). ‘One Step Closer’ is a powerful song with a delicate sound, ambiance, and reflection. If you listen to the lyrics carefully, Bono expresses his grief for his dying father.

Another beautiful song that discusses the ‘rawness’ of grief is from Peter Gabriel. From his album, “Up” (2002), Peter created a masterpiece called ‘I Grieve’. ‘I Grieve’ reflects the sadness, anger, and loneliness a person suffers when they lose someone. The song concludes by Peter singing ‘life carries on, and on and on…’ But more importantly, he expresses, the only way one can get a sense of ‘relief’ from this deep sadness is to just…grieve.

And if you find this music too reflective and sad to think about, take a step back and listen to something fun. Maybe enjoying a happy tune that reminds you of your deceased. As a kid I enjoyed Kermit & Fozzie’s ‘Movin’ Right Along’ (1979). I remember singing this song and driving my parents crazy! Such great memories thinking about them. 🙂

If you find yourself struggling with loss & grief, please feel free to contact myself or one of our therapists.

Wishing you good health & wellness!


Youtube Song List:
‘One Step Closer’ by U2
‘I Grieve’ by Peter Gabriel
‘Movin’ Right Along’ from The Muppet Movie