Connecting with Your Values

Danielle DuskaPsychotherapy

Sometimes we fall into a pattern or routine that moves us farther away from the life we want to live, which can leave us feeling disconnected from the person we want to be. If you find yourself moving away from a life that aligns with your values, you may also notice a decline in your mental health; this is why understanding your personal values can be so important!

Exploring Personal Values:
First and foremost, connecting with your values does not have to be a significant shift or change in your routine. In fact, sometimes all you need is a deeper understanding followed by a subtle change to make each day more meaningful.

Here’s a helpful way to start this exploration. Consider the following four categories: (a) work/education; (b) leisure activities, (c) relationships, and (d) health/personal growth.
– On a piece of paper, write the title of each category.
– Underneath the categories record the words that reflect your perceptions of what that category would be if it completely aligned with who you are and what you wanted to do (these are your values).
– Now, reflect on your day to day experiences and explore how they align or contrast with the values you’ve written down.
– Focus on only one category moving forward for the time being (* if you try to make changes in all four categories at once sometimes it can become overwhelming *).
– Next, decide on one behaviour that you could do that brings you closer to the words you wrote down under that category.
– After trying the behaviour for a few weeks (approx. 2 weeks) return to your values list and decide whether it moved you closer to the words or not.

If you are interested in learning more about your personal values, how you can live a life that aligns with your values, or you would like to develop skills to establish and maintain helpful behaviours you can book a complimentary consultation at or by calling (403) 454-7600.